METIENNE

I am not married, we may say I don't have experience but i definitely know the kind of man every woman wants because I am a woman. Women like feeling special and pampered, it is in us. Those lovely compliments, sincere appreciation and sweet words warm our hearts. Yes we are special for sure hence we deserve to feel equally or more special. When a woman meets that gentleman who makes her feel special than any other person around her, you can be rest assured she will make you feel triple special in return. A woman is like a kid, however learned or experienced she is, she would not resist a good sense of direction. No woman wants to have man who is not concerned any inch about what goes on in her career field/business. We all admire men who make us better in our careers and ambitions. By making her better I mean knowing what goes on in her business, having two or three compliments about it,  practically assisting with ideas and getting things done if need be. Anything supportive ...

I may forget most things I did when I was a child but I never forget what mama taught me. She had a unique way of making you remember her lessons whether you liked it or not. Thanks to these ways, I naturally know how I ought to behave and how not to. Here are some of the lessons; Mama taught me to respect people. People I like, those I don't like, those I meet everyday and even those I go years without seeing, it doesn't matter, respect them. She said, if you can't respect them in your own privacy, force yourself to respect them in public. She taught me never to despise anyone. Especially the people who might not appear respectable by whichever virtue. 'Treat people equally despite their status', mama always says.  If you can't bring yourself to relate with them like you relate with others at least do not despise them. Thanks to my mama I know I am my own responsibility. How I turn out to be is upon me. What I own, how I stay, how I behave, what I achieve,...

One of my best days as at now is my 24th birthday. I know am loved but many days go by without being told or shown or realizing how much am loved. To the inventor of birthdays, thank you, because I realize that this one day I get to hear from so many souls all wishing me a cute year ahead whether casually or deeply the wishes are all deeply appreciated. Here is a little appreciation to all who took a second of their time or more to think of me. I am truly grateful sweethearts. To my adorable family, dad, mum, lovely sister, awesome brothers, my sister in laws and lovely Etienne; I cannot give back for all the lovely messages, precious gifts and well wishes that you have always given me. I pray that God may bless you all abundantly and grant you the wishes of your hearts. To my birthday mates Tony, Robert, Liz and cousin Sally together with all those that I may not know I wish you a lovely year ahead that you may grow wiser and younger and keep getting better at what you do.  ...

One of the greatest virtues in existence is that of 'giving it time'. Time is a medicine of it's own prescribed by nature yet heals a million sicknesses. Think of the countless times you have wished to finish a period of time in your life for instance a bad day, a boring lesson, hours behind bars, a bad job, a stressful experience, recovery from sickness, toxic relationship, school etc. They have always come to pass and ushered in many more better or worse experiences haven't they? Yet the next time you commence another not so pleasant period of an event you keep wondering when shall this end?! It is our nature as human beings to get worried and impatient about things. We have the power to allow that anxiety to control us and give us stressful moods and sleepless nights. It is more of a choice, you choose to live now and worry about now or live in the future and deal with both present and future stresses. Many a times we choose to try both and the result is always u...

We live in such a spoilt era where doing wrong is the fashionable right. I mean people do all sorts of evil things and they are not moved even a single inch. Its the norm, the real thing and as a society we have pardoned such things to the extent that when you stand for the right thing you are weird. Very beautiful young girls date married men, they are fully aware of the status but hell yes they are fine with it as long as the money keeps coming. We are afraid of introducing our spouses to 'friends' because apparently these 'friends' will snatch them. others forbid visitors to their homes whenever hubby is around because hubby will see more beautiful ladies and run after them. LOL. Little kids as young as 4 know everything that goes on in the bedroom when mommy and daddy are in, they make me wonder was I slow, is the world spoilt or what exactly is going wrong? Friends stopped being real friends. Being genuinely happy for the good in a friend's life is a pa...

Hallo Nairobi it has been awhile but I am back this time to alert us of insecurity instances that we ought to watch out for. In 2009/2010 I lost a phone (kabambe phone to be particular) in a rather common way but it is good to mention it so as to alert anyone who might not be aware. It was on a Sunday I was coming from church and had to take a matatu back home.   I called my sister just before getting into the matatu unaware someone was watching me. As soon as I sat as the third person at the row just behind the driver’s row, another passenger quickly came in squeezing himself to fit, notice we were already three (full) meaning he was an excess on that row. I tried to complain, telling him to sit at the empty seats behind us but the driver and conductor intervened saying it was a Sunday and people were in a hurry for church so I should let him stay. I did not suspect anything so I kept my cool. This guy had a brown envelope which he put on his laps, overlapping to my side...

November babies, it is our time. A whole new year is almost coming to an end, been through a mixture of happiness, sadness, confusion, focus, desire, ambition, tears, bitterness, joy, name them. All these are finally ushering in a new year, thanks to The Almighty God above. Have you ever sat in a quiet place and wondered at all that happens and life keeps moving forward? So much goes on around and with us in the course of life that when you think about it, it is indeed overwhelming. I had some quiet moments today and thought of the 224 perished souls in the plane crush that occurred in Egypt. Lives lost as young as a several months old baby and as old as a 77 years old granny. My heart surely sank. I am sad for these very many dreams, very many ambitions, and moments lost within a short period of time, unpredicted, unseen yet it happened. Then I searched my soul and thought this could be Kenya, America, Philippines, France wherever. People die every day, every minute; sad as...

Experience and time are the best teachers. Turns out the older we grow the clearer we understand and differentiate between what matters and what doesn't. The differences between worthy and unworthy, useful and useless, important and not important become more meaningful. So several years ago I would lose an item say a phone, book, bag, pen etc. and that would literally throw me off balance and get me worked up for days. Cursing became the order of the day to the extent that I would waste much time playing detective and looking for the culprit in God knows which ways. Today I know too well things come and go in one way or the other. As long as its gone there is no point getting all sad because however sad I get, the emotions never bring those items back. The best way to handle such situations is to understand nothing is permanent, not even life. Better things are coming and even those shall leave in whichever way, positive or negative. About a year or so ago I would get so p...

The best thing that ever happened to me in my current age bracket is realizing and internalizing the fact that no one is perfect, neither am I. you will hear so much of the "not being perfect" statement in here, bare with me. Yes I am not perfect, neither are you. when  you think about it carefully you start to understand why all people, white and black, big and small, tall and short, bright or slow...name them; have something to bring to the table, something much more important than how they look like.  when you realize you probably have bigger ears than you would ask for or maybe shorter toes than you would wish to have; you also get to understand you may not be perfect but you are as beautiful as you wish to think. The advantage of knowing you have flaws is that it makes you accept people around you for who they are and not what they look like according to you. Truth of the matter is those people who make friends on the basis of looks, size, physic or material...

Amazing how being positive generally attracts a full package of positive outcomes in your life. It is a reality. From the experiences I have had the many yet very few years I have lived, I know too well that having a positive mind set makes life better and outcomes of life's activities more fulfilling. Having a positive mind set means complaining less. We can never have a perfect life or perfect people around us neither can we have perfect services being offered by human beings or machines. We are not perfect ourselves. It is therefore good for your soul to practice complaining less regardless of the situations we are faced with. Instead we should all learn to appreciate more. Appreciate the little nice things done or said to you, it gives the giver motivation to keep doing good. The services offered will keep getting better and eventually come close to perfection. On the other hand, when you keep complaining there is that bad taste that always lingers around. You will nev...

Many a times we confuse fear and respect. These are two totally different things. Fear is more of feeling intimidated by people around you, feeling afraid of circumstances or instances that occur or may occur in life. Fear is toxic, it kills confidence, ambition and even achievement. Once you let fear get into your system it slowly eats you up more than you would imagine. Why do we fear? Perhaps that is the starting point of solving the whole fear issue. People fear because they once failed, either they failed at an attempt to do something hence fear another failure or they fear to be wrong, to make an attempt in the wrong direction. We all need to know and understand that as much as we always wish never to fail, failure is part of life and it is here to stay. The problem is not failing, the problem is failing and attempting to do the same thing again in the same manner with the same energy and factors with absolutely nothing different. You are bound to fail again and again in th...

    You will travel the whole world but chances are that you will never meet a friend as loyal and loving as your mama. True especially for ladies.    Try to have a closer look at your strengths, weaknesses, good and bad sides and character in general and you wont miss a big part of it that resembles your mum's. You probably have a temper just like her's, or maybe it's how you treat people, relate to them, give, advise, rebuke, encourage, praise etc. She is your mama, definitely you took some traits from her. Who wouldn't want to be best friends with someone they resemble?    A mother's love is in most cases unconditional love. They don't care to receive from you, they are more concerned about making you comfortable and giving you what they most likely never had. It wouldn't hurt either if they wanted from you because they have been giving ever since you first cried. We can never ever fully reward mother and parents generally for what they have been ...

Good morning Nairobi. Its back to being sunny, yeeeey :-). I have reasons to thank God, everyday of my life. Today it's sunny, no more cold, no more sweaters, no more boots, umbrellas, leggings, lesos and all the heavy and sometimes annoying attire. Ladies lets get back to those sexy sundresses, adorable blouses and tops, Masai sandles and open shoes to flaunt the pretty nails. If you cant figure out what to be happy about, join me in celebrating the good weather, let's embrace it. Good moods come along with more love, laughter, smiles, new dreams, innovations, solutions to problems, name all the positive things. I love you all, cheers.

      In the current society it is not obvious to be oneself. Somehow people are always trying to fit into clicks, groups, characters, status and all other things that probably seem cool or better than where they actually are. Some people do it perfectly but to the majority it is frustrating. Don't get me wrong though, am not saying that it is bad to work towards getting your dream status or aspire to be what you want to be. My point is, we can actually save alot of energy by being who we really are and working towards who we want to be.        I have met people who for instance pretend they can not speak their mother tongue, they say they don't have an idea yet they speak it with their parents on phone everytime. I tried to figure out why someone would act like that and I concluded probably they have been told speaking your mother tongue is 'ushamba' or maybe they do not find it cool. It's fine not to speak what you don't want but...

     Now now, we all know we can't be a million Obamas, a thousand Uhurus or even two Beyonces. It's as impossible as it sounds. According to me we can all have our own success and the world will be a better place. This will only happen when we stop wanting to be like so and so and start being ME, start making good use of our inner strengths and discovering who we really are and how best we can bring it out to the world. There is nothing wrong with looking upto someone you admire, the problem comes in when we judge our progress and outcome with how our mentors had theirs. It is devastating to terribly want to achieve exactly what someone else did and fail. Who knows, you probably were ment to achieve alot more than they did in a different way.       My true defination of success; it is an every day journey not a destination. Failing four times and eventually getting it right is success. Doing things better with every given opportunity is suc...

 There are those things nobody is going to tell us but we sure need them to stay put..Here is a list of some:- We can try so hard, pray so hard and wish even harder but God always has the final word. So do it all but take it easy, it will go the way God wants it to go.  Time moves so fast, we don't realize it until we look back several years ago. Be patient, try to be. If you've come from 20 years ago, 2 years to come should be a walk over. People will wish you the best, and do everything they can to help you but the ultimate task is upon you. You sit for exams by yourself, you wake up everyday as yourself, you breath on your own, you go into the labour room by yourself and even when we finally die we are off on our own. Its okay to depend on others for hope, strength and more but do not forget that you got to be strong on your own. Give a helping hand, give it your all, strive to make others happy but never ever do it expecting the same treatment in return. The truth is ...

  Obama's visit to Kenya over the weekend has left most of us inspired and rejuvenated to forge forward me included. Looking at a man who has a complicated history than what most of us have and yet has made it big to the point of becoming the most influencial being at the moment is'nt something small. In his own words he says, we can all make it far and wide irregardless of where we come from, who we are or what people think we are. The most inspiring bit about President Obama according to me is how humble and simple he is and how he relates to everyone around him. His look and response to questions asked tells so much about him, someone who has it all but that doesn't matter when it comes to being what he was made to be and relating to people around him. Enough said.     That brings me to today's topic, 'why you should not settle for anything less than what you want.' Where there is a will there is a way. The willingness and desire to achieve something makes y...

I read this somewhere, '' Unless it's mad, passionate, or extraordinary love, it's a waste of your time. There are too many mediocre things in life: love shouldn't be one of them.'' I totally agree with the author. The things love makes you do, say, imagine or risk are amazing. That is my true defination of love, where you literally breath because the other person exists. Love is sweet, it hurts sometimes but today we are not talking about hurting, no..we going to be all about the sweetness that comes along with love.    When you are in love you wake up and the first person on your mind is him/her. You automatically smile and picture them right there beside you. You never forget to say thank you Lord for a new day because love makes you alive. Before you wake up, thoughts of time spent together cross your mind and you go over your shared photo albums over and over...just smilling. The connection is right there in the memories, they make you glow and look f...

  This is not funny. A new brand of men cropping up slowly or maybe they existed I just had no idea it's real. Ladies have you ever met men who believe in themselves so much that they know with no doubt, if they make a move you ought to respond positively by all means? Yes, men who for some reason believe they are the best in existence and no lady should dare refuse them! Hehehe its funny but its not really funny.    I think we all ought to understand that there is a clear cut difference between playing 'hard to get' and playing 'its never gonna happen'. And its not being mean no, this goes to both guys and girls me included. You see I can really really like you but its upto you to like me back. Somethings cant be forced, things like love, like, etc. One of the saddest feelings ever is liking someone who doesn't feel the same way towards you and am saying that from experience. Have you ever liked someone so much that you would take a bullet for them? ;-). Well ...

If you are looking for motivation to keep you going, to wake you up every morning and to make you strive better each day then look no further. You have your mama for all that. It doesn't matter whether its your real mum, an aunt who has been your mum, a big sister who brought you up etc. I mean a mother, a female figure that has seen you through your ups and downs, has given you strict rules to abide by, she quarrels you at the slightest mistake but still hugs you tight when all goes wrong.     Mums are extra ordinary, for a start they bare you for a whole nine months and do all that it takes to ensure you transit to the world alive and kicking. They love you unconditionally each day and watch every bit of you grow up from the tiny first tooth to the first words you say, they are there cheering you on. To them you are the most beautiful baby existing. When dad is not in the moods for diapers and napkins mum never complains. Out of that unique love and connection she has ...

I logged into my fb account today and first post I see is of a hillarious alert warning people of a lethal pickpocket at Kenyatta National hospital bus station. I  find it hillarious because the photograph of the suspected pickpocket marches the allegations. No offence but he looked like one. It got me thinking, why would someone settle for such kind of a job? There is need, we got to make money to survive but stealing is just way overboard. I have seen these thieves do their work so perfectly and act like they dont even know what happened. I have gone through the ordeal of being pickpocketed and have been told stories of how people lost their belongings in this way and IT'S NOT FUNNY.     The confusion that is felt just before you realize you've been stolen from and the shock and disbelief afterwards is not an intresting feeling to go through. You wish you din't go there, you din't use that matatu, you din't carry your fone, you din't take that seat next to th...

You have a rough week at work, deadlines to meet, projects hanging, workmates you just cant stand, crazy working hours and probably very little pay to show for it. Atleast you have something to do and somewhere to go to each new day you wake up, smile. It rained heavily the previous day but its shining today. You decide to put on this lovely white dress that is perfect for a sunny friday and compliment it with adorable heels. Your morning seems promising until you meet this crazy 'devil' ten minutes to your work place. He/she drives past you splashing dirty water all over your dress and face and ofcourse doesnt stop to apologize or atleast slow down to acknowledge it. Smile sister, the car did not hit you. You'll still make it to work alive. Your car breaks down in the middle of a hectic traffic jam. You dont even know exactly where the betry is and ofcourse the crazy touts dont even notice the Learner sign..they just wunt spare you. All the hooting and insults make you...

One of life's greatest virtues is positivity. Almost every event however negative has a positive side to it. Yes thats true we just need to think about it and decide to concentrate on the positive aspect. Some of the sad things that happen including death, loss of a job, a break up, being sick, getting an accident to name but a few teach us a lesson that could make us better.. Trying to look at the positive side of death is almost impossible especially premature death i.e. death before 90/80 years. Sometimes when you cant see the positive side of something its wise to accept the situation as it is and try find a way forward or a way of living with the truth. So many people live a devastating life by trying to cling to the past and to the things that are no more or have never existed. Wisdom in my opinion is looking at a situation, accepting its current state however hard and finding a strategy to make it better as desired. Thats not to mean we shouldnt cry or feel bad when things g...

Who will save us from the madness in the Kenyan Matatu industry? As citizens are we capable of making any changes? I personally have gotten into the point of joining abit of the madness, as the saying goes if you cant beat them join them. I made a resolution to complain less and act more but am not sure how I  can go about it here. All in all somebody has to hear our cry, there is little we can do individually but maybe that little can pile up and become something someday.     I know many would tell me to buy my own car but am nowhere near there financially and besides that more than half of Kenyans cant afford to drive so the public transport remains our main means of getting by. I've had nasty experiences with the matatu touts upto the point of wishing i owned a gun. Maybe I would teach some of them a lesson that money doesnt grow on trees. Today so many Kenyans will testify of having been robbed off by touts in many ways. Here are some of them;   Having to...

MetBwisainspirations: There is always something nice from a bad day : So yesterday i happened to wake up late and those lost minutes dragged themselves throughout the whole day. I woke up late, got to the bus s...

MetBwisainspirations: Things that go a long way : My uncle's birthday today reminds me so much of my childhood years.I grew up in the village, it inspired me into who Iam today and am pr...

My uncle's birthday today reminds me so much of my childhood years.I grew up in the village, it inspired me into who Iam today and am proud of it infact back then when i was still a little girl i was the village darling.. I mean everybody knew me as 'mtoto wa madam'. I used to sell bananas to my neighbours and even those who had planted their's still bought mine because of the charming smile I offered. Given a chance now i would do the same thing all over, too bad we cant reverse years.       Back to my uncle, he is one of the nicest relatives anyone would have. Having an uncle as a facebook friend who sees everything you post ranging from 'hot' photos to tennagehood insults and he still finds you adorable and doesnt report any of them is quite something keeping in mind he is nowhere near your age bracket. Those uncles you would tell anything comfortably without fearing that they would judge you or scold you, thats uncle Nelson for me.       ...

So yesterday i happened to wake up late and those lost minutes dragged themselves throughout the whole day. I woke up late, got to the bus station late, found no matatus, crazy lines of people, hiked up fare, eventually got into an old matatu which got spoilt before my destination. I walked almost halfway my distance making it to work an hour late.        Being a never giving up kind of person i tried to catch up on the lost time by extending my stay at work. This wasnt a very brilliant idea. Going back home was twice as difficult as getting to work in the morning.  I stood at the bus stop for a whole hour with no matatus showing up. The traffic was crazy all public vehicles seemed to have dissappeared to alternative roads. After an hour of being hopeful, a lady who i later knew as Barbra suggeested we try our luck at the next stage. We walked to the next stage and the next and the next, with no hopes.      By the time we got to t...

Hallo world, new kid in the block. Am so much excited to to share my world with you. watch out :-)