The me now versus the me then.
Experience and time are the best teachers. Turns out the older we grow the clearer we understand and differentiate between what matters and what doesn't. The differences between worthy and unworthy, useful and useless, important and not important become more meaningful.
So several years ago I would lose an item say a phone, book, bag, pen etc. and that would literally throw me off balance and get me worked up for days. Cursing became the order of the day to the extent that I would waste much time playing detective and looking for the culprit in God knows which ways. Today I know too well things come and go in one way or the other. As long as its gone there is no point getting all sad because however sad I get, the emotions never bring those items back. The best way to handle such situations is to understand nothing is permanent, not even life. Better things are coming and even those shall leave in whichever way, positive or negative.
About a year or so ago I would get so pissed off if I heard a close friend or say someone I trusted talked about me falsely or negatively. It does pierce through the heart for sure; but now am wiser and better at handling such. I realize I too am important. I mean I am worth a minute or two of being talked about. It gives me that desire to do better, probably change the story line or prove them wrong and in fact get more minutes of fame. Think of it this way, whether you do good or bad if people want to talk they will still talk so keep doing your staff the way you want it done.
We all have personal preferences, each with their own taste and way of approaching life. Some of us were brought up in a way that we bring out our preferences so strongly and loudly for that matter that other people actually think, our way of thought is how things should go/be. Well that is wrong. When you are close to such a person and you are the laid back type of an individual, you tend to tie yourself to what others strongly proclaim and forget what you really think and feel about the same issue. Well the good news is, apart from Jesus (in my religion's context) no one else is the standard. So unless you are trying to be like Jesus, you should not abandon what makes you comfortable for what makes another person comfortable. It is all about you, what you like, what you can deal with, what makes you happy etc. Never make the mistake of making a decision based on what somebody told you especially if it is against your belief.
The older you grow the wiser you should become. Spend more time on things that matter, that make a positive change between the you then and the you now. Don't allow people to define you, do it yourself. It sounds obvious and maybe weird but it happens especially to those of us between 20-26 years. It is sad to be in bondage, to keep doing what other people want you to do at the expense of what you want/should do. Stand up for yourself, its your time, your life, your way of doing things as long as you are not breaking the law.
So several years ago I would lose an item say a phone, book, bag, pen etc. and that would literally throw me off balance and get me worked up for days. Cursing became the order of the day to the extent that I would waste much time playing detective and looking for the culprit in God knows which ways. Today I know too well things come and go in one way or the other. As long as its gone there is no point getting all sad because however sad I get, the emotions never bring those items back. The best way to handle such situations is to understand nothing is permanent, not even life. Better things are coming and even those shall leave in whichever way, positive or negative.
About a year or so ago I would get so pissed off if I heard a close friend or say someone I trusted talked about me falsely or negatively. It does pierce through the heart for sure; but now am wiser and better at handling such. I realize I too am important. I mean I am worth a minute or two of being talked about. It gives me that desire to do better, probably change the story line or prove them wrong and in fact get more minutes of fame. Think of it this way, whether you do good or bad if people want to talk they will still talk so keep doing your staff the way you want it done.
We all have personal preferences, each with their own taste and way of approaching life. Some of us were brought up in a way that we bring out our preferences so strongly and loudly for that matter that other people actually think, our way of thought is how things should go/be. Well that is wrong. When you are close to such a person and you are the laid back type of an individual, you tend to tie yourself to what others strongly proclaim and forget what you really think and feel about the same issue. Well the good news is, apart from Jesus (in my religion's context) no one else is the standard. So unless you are trying to be like Jesus, you should not abandon what makes you comfortable for what makes another person comfortable. It is all about you, what you like, what you can deal with, what makes you happy etc. Never make the mistake of making a decision based on what somebody told you especially if it is against your belief.
The older you grow the wiser you should become. Spend more time on things that matter, that make a positive change between the you then and the you now. Don't allow people to define you, do it yourself. It sounds obvious and maybe weird but it happens especially to those of us between 20-26 years. It is sad to be in bondage, to keep doing what other people want you to do at the expense of what you want/should do. Stand up for yourself, its your time, your life, your way of doing things as long as you are not breaking the law.
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