Why you need not to fear anyone
Many a times we confuse fear and respect. These are two totally different things. Fear is more of feeling intimidated by people around you, feeling afraid of circumstances or instances that occur or may occur in life. Fear is toxic, it kills confidence, ambition and even achievement. Once you let fear get into your system it slowly eats you up more than you would imagine.
Why do we fear? Perhaps that is the starting point of solving the whole fear issue. People fear because they once failed, either they failed at an attempt to do something hence fear another failure or they fear to be wrong, to make an attempt in the wrong direction. We all need to know and understand that as much as we always wish never to fail, failure is part of life and it is here to stay. The problem is not failing, the problem is failing and attempting to do the same thing again in the same manner with the same energy and factors with absolutely nothing different. You are bound to fail again and again in that case. Fearing to make another attempt is fear in itself.. toxic. If you want to do something, anything and prosper at it the first step is to stop wanting and start doing. You have to start, don't worry whether you will fail or succeed, that is a matter to be visited at a later stage. If it is necessary that you embark on any issue, first START. While at it, plan, know what is right what is wrong, challenges that will come along, how to tackle them, when to stop, when to keep going, what to do etc. In short, strategize the whole task from beginning to end point. Strategy in itself is conquering fear. Bottom line is failure and success are both possible outcomes. You can never know which is yours unless you attempt. None of the outcomes is unworthy, both of them are a result that you did or went through a process. At the end you either get pleased at the result or learn from it and try a different route. There is nothing like absolute failure.
Other people fear because of external factors. Somebody told you, you are bad at it, you saw someone do it better therefore you feel yours is trash or maybe you feel intimidated by people around you. There is no one who was declared a benchmark for success or any other thing. You are your own benchmark in that whether you failed or succeeded is dependent on how you do things, how you have been performing at whatever it is. Life is not all about competition, it is about learning yourself and getting challenged to be a better you with every step you take. By the time you start thinking you can't do something because somebody did it in a different way you have become too idle. Concentrate on your life, look at what other people have done and be encouraged to try harder but never compare your potential with any other person's. The one sure ingredient to confusion and eventual failure is listening to discouragement around you, letting negative comments affect you negatively. In any case let that discouragement make you want to prove them wrong.
Back to the difference between fear and respect. Respect is a two way thing, it is learning to coexist with each other regardless of your point of view in life. It has nothing to do with wanting to make someone bow before you or run at your mention of their name. That is instilling fear in someone. You don't have to like me to respect me, you don't even need to know me to respect me. So never confuse respect with fear, some people will want you to fear them or their position in the name of respect. Why would you fear a human being walking on twos like you? One breathing the same air as you do? They might have achieved things that you haven't yet but who said they are life's benchmark? Respect everyone but fear no one, only God.
Why do we fear? Perhaps that is the starting point of solving the whole fear issue. People fear because they once failed, either they failed at an attempt to do something hence fear another failure or they fear to be wrong, to make an attempt in the wrong direction. We all need to know and understand that as much as we always wish never to fail, failure is part of life and it is here to stay. The problem is not failing, the problem is failing and attempting to do the same thing again in the same manner with the same energy and factors with absolutely nothing different. You are bound to fail again and again in that case. Fearing to make another attempt is fear in itself.. toxic. If you want to do something, anything and prosper at it the first step is to stop wanting and start doing. You have to start, don't worry whether you will fail or succeed, that is a matter to be visited at a later stage. If it is necessary that you embark on any issue, first START. While at it, plan, know what is right what is wrong, challenges that will come along, how to tackle them, when to stop, when to keep going, what to do etc. In short, strategize the whole task from beginning to end point. Strategy in itself is conquering fear. Bottom line is failure and success are both possible outcomes. You can never know which is yours unless you attempt. None of the outcomes is unworthy, both of them are a result that you did or went through a process. At the end you either get pleased at the result or learn from it and try a different route. There is nothing like absolute failure.
Other people fear because of external factors. Somebody told you, you are bad at it, you saw someone do it better therefore you feel yours is trash or maybe you feel intimidated by people around you. There is no one who was declared a benchmark for success or any other thing. You are your own benchmark in that whether you failed or succeeded is dependent on how you do things, how you have been performing at whatever it is. Life is not all about competition, it is about learning yourself and getting challenged to be a better you with every step you take. By the time you start thinking you can't do something because somebody did it in a different way you have become too idle. Concentrate on your life, look at what other people have done and be encouraged to try harder but never compare your potential with any other person's. The one sure ingredient to confusion and eventual failure is listening to discouragement around you, letting negative comments affect you negatively. In any case let that discouragement make you want to prove them wrong.
Back to the difference between fear and respect. Respect is a two way thing, it is learning to coexist with each other regardless of your point of view in life. It has nothing to do with wanting to make someone bow before you or run at your mention of their name. That is instilling fear in someone. You don't have to like me to respect me, you don't even need to know me to respect me. So never confuse respect with fear, some people will want you to fear them or their position in the name of respect. Why would you fear a human being walking on twos like you? One breathing the same air as you do? They might have achieved things that you haven't yet but who said they are life's benchmark? Respect everyone but fear no one, only God.
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