Lets talk relationships

  This is not funny. A new brand of men cropping up slowly or maybe they existed I just had no idea it's real. Ladies have you ever met men who believe in themselves so much that they know with no doubt, if they make a move you ought to respond positively by all means? Yes, men who for some reason believe they are the best in existence and no lady should dare refuse them! Hehehe its funny but its not really funny.
   I think we all ought to understand that there is a clear cut difference between playing 'hard to get' and playing 'its never gonna happen'. And its not being mean no, this goes to both guys and girls me included. You see I can really really like you but its upto you to like me back. Somethings cant be forced, things like love, like, etc. One of the saddest feelings ever is liking someone who doesn't feel the same way towards you and am saying that from experience. Have you ever liked someone so much that you would take a bullet for them? ;-). Well I have but it turned out they probably didn't like me that much and the good news is its alright. In such a case you simply MOVE ON. Its really ugly to force yourself on someone who doesn't want you around. It's ugly because you end up hurting more than you would if you had let gone earlier. The most intresting bit about it all is that we know deep down if someone feels the same way towards us or if they simply dont or probably they see a friend in us but nothing more. It's good and it's wiser to read these signs earlier enough and act accordingly.
     There is however a type of people who lead others on with no intentions of being real. Well that is really mean. Am not going to say God will pay such people back..hahaa..no. It's just bad. I read an article yesternight about a lady actually a celebrity of some sort who divorced her husband after less than 24 hours of their wedding. (Those intrested in the story check out my facebook wall for the link). Relationships dont always have to work out to the end if they are not meant to. Its okay to fail, its okay to fall, its okay to break it, its okay because if you cant stand someone for a year what makes you think you can stand them for 50 years? Better broken courtship than broken marriage. The greatest lesson I have learnt about relationships is to let things flow in their own direction, enjoy every moment of it and be real because being real is what remains in the 50-70 years of marriage to come. If you cant deal with his/her real now, you cant deal with it later so make your choice wisely.
   Back to the new brand of men or maybe ladies as well. These guys who hurl abuses and insults at ladies who are not intrested in them or have learnt that they cant be with them for some reason. Eewwww! Who brings up such kinds of men? It's a shame and it is real. A little advice, most ladies can deal with anything but not an abusive guy. Its childish, petty, dispicable, annoying, a put off, a turn off, sad, intolerable, unimaginable and really really frightening. I hope I did not forget any better word.
    Lets spread love lets spread reality. At the end of the day you can only have one lover and a million or more friends. If you ask me, a true simple friend is much better because that can never be broken.

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