I choose to be myself

      In the current society it is not obvious to be oneself. Somehow people are always trying to fit into clicks, groups, characters, status and all other things that probably seem cool or better than where they actually are. Some people do it perfectly but to the majority it is frustrating. Don't get me wrong though, am not saying that it is bad to work towards getting your dream status or aspire to be what you want to be. My point is, we can actually save alot of energy by being who we really are and working towards who we want to be.
       I have met people who for instance pretend they can not speak their mother tongue, they say they don't have an idea yet they speak it with their parents on phone everytime. I tried to figure out why someone would act like that and I concluded probably they have been told speaking your mother tongue is 'ushamba' or maybe they do not find it cool. It's fine not to speak what you don't want but pretending not to know is entirely another thing. Anyway we can say that is not my business.
       People have become addicted to serious staff in the name of trying to fit in and this is where it becomes my business. We don't really have to be cool to exist. Our grandparents existed too well and soo long yet I highly doubt they were struggling with fitting into things. I tried to justify why it is perfect to be myself and here are some few reasons;
  1. When I am myself I attract people like me, people who go by my flow and like what I do the way I do. It is way way easier to live my life like that because I dont have to cram anything, I dont have to worry about meeting so and so or looking in a certain way because I know the people that I care about accept me the way I am.
  2.   I save alot of energy and channel it to important things. Being myself is effortless I simply wake up, do my staff the normal way and go on with my business as usual the way I am used to it. Give me a joke I will laugh soo hard because that is how I usually laugh and at the end of the day i sleep a happy girl. I have not wasted any energy trying to suppress my laugh because so and so is around.
  3. It saves me the embarrasment. Simple example, someone mentions a new brand/type of car and since you dont want to seem like you are not informed you node to their story and pretend to know all along. Then they ask you a question that makes you mention a totally different thing. We are never born knowing things, we just pick them along the way and it doesnt matter when what matters is that you got to know eventually.
  4. I get better by being me. I know what I am, where I am and where I am headed to. That is the only way anyone can get better because they live in reality and they want to make it better if necessary.
  5. I fit into my space perfectly. The world is too big and there is soo much space for all characters. By being yourself you get into your peaceful space and evrything else around you is peaceful.  It makes it easier for people around you to know exactly how to relate with you, infact you never miss out on opportunities ment for you.
 Be yourself, make life easier for all of us.

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