The desirable friend

Some friends are too dear and close that they literally become family. Those friends who cross your mind first when the best and worst things happen in your life. Most times they receive the news before your family does. These friends have particular traits that make them so dear to other people. These traits include:-

  1. They are real. A true friend is real. They call a spade a spade and not a big spoon. When a true friend is telling you a story of how they got dumped, they do not sugar coat it to make it seem like they did the dumping. You wouldn't judge them for whatever it is that happened after all, would you? I mean they are your friends so they lay it down exactly how it went. 
  2.  A true friend is not selfish. Have you ever had a friend who is always asking and never giving? That friend who when it comes to contributing for a group venture they always must be the ones giving less. They could in fact be having more than everyone else but no, to them it feels better when they give less and retain more in their pockets. Most people do not say it out loud but this is one of those very irritating characters anyone can ever have. Things come and go just like people so when you have share with others especially the friends who share with you. It is never too much to ask in most cases. Friendship is a two way thing.
  3.  A good friend is understanding. They do not always expect perfection from you. These days we come across friends who you fail them ones and they will pin you down for the rest of your life not caring how many times they have failed you. Your friend is not Jesus in any case they are as human as you are. When they are not able to take you to Gikomba for 'roundi mwenda' like you took them the other day please try to understand. They could be genuinely having a busy day or perhaps they are just moody and prefer staying in all day. 
  4. They want the best for you. Regardless of whether they are going through the worst times in their lifetime, a true friend is always happy for the good in your endeavors. They know you having something good automatically means they are having it well too therefore they support and cheer you on. If you have those friends who must have everything going right for them before it goes right for you you need to think twice about it. The desirable friend is genuinely happy for the good in their friends life. 
  5. Loyalty in a friend is for keeps. The friends who stay true and loyal in your face and behind your back are a treasure. These are not friends who snoop around to kiss your boyfriend to prove if he indeed is a good kisser like you said. They are not the kind of friends who offer your wife gifts behind your back knowing too well you lost your job and gifts are definitely not your priority. A loyal friend respects your boundaries, they do to you what they would be comfortable with if done to them. 
  6. A true friend is always a friend. It does not matter how long you go without talking to each other because of your busy schedules but when you eventually reconnect the chemistry is as real as always. You really don't have to follow each other around like someone and their shadow but you can if you want, its a free world. 
  7. Lastly a true friend is available. They are available for you when you need them just like you are for them. You don't have a fixed expectation from them but they attend to your invites, apologize if they wont make it or make it up for you in their convenient time. We really do not expect people to be their for us always when we are never their for them. A normal person reciprocates the love accorded to them otherwise the giver eventually gives up. 
No man is an island we all need friends. If you are lucky enough to have nice ones around you treasure and keep them. 

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